Upholding Good Manners in Speech and Conduct
📖Sahih al-Bukhari 3559
Narrated Abdullah bin Amr: The Prophet ﷺ never used bad language — he was neither Fahish (indecent) nor Mutafahish (deliberately vulgar). He used to say, “The best among you are those who have the best manners and character.”
Description:
This hadith shows the refined character of the Prophet ﷺ. He never stooped to indecent or vulgar language, even when dealing with enemies or ignorant people. His speech was always clean, dignified, and respectful. The terms “Fahish” and “Mutafahish” refer to someone who either naturally speaks obscenely or forces themselves to use offensive words. The Prophet ﷺ was neither, He didn’t just preach good character — he lived it. That’s why he taught that the best Muslims are those with the best manners, not just those who pray or fast the most.
What We Learn Today:
In a world filled with online insults, arguments, and bad language, this hadith reminds us that being a good Muslim starts with your words and behavior. You can’t claim to follow the Prophet ﷺ while spreading hate, using foul speech, or lacking basic decency.
Even when we disagree, we must speak with hikmah (wisdom) and akhlaq (character). Real strength isn’t in cursing louder – it’s in staying dignified like the Prophet ﷺ.
Quranic Context:
📖Quran 33:21
“Indeed, in the Messenger of Allah you have an excellent example for whoever hopes for Allah and the Last Day and remembers Allah often.”
→ His behavior is not just admirable — it’s a model to follow.
📖Quran 68:4
“And you are truly upon an exalted character.”
→ Allah Himself confirms that the Prophet ﷺ had the highest level of character.
📖Quran 41:34
“Good and evil are not equal. Repel evil with what is better, and the one who was your enemy will become as close as a devoted friend.”
→ A lesson in responding with good speech and patience, even when provoked.
📖Quran 49:11
“O you who believe, let not some men ridicule others… Nor defame one another, nor insult one another by nicknames…”
→ This verse bans the kind of speech the Prophet ﷺ never used — mockery, insults, and name-calling.
Claiming to love the Prophet ﷺ means speaking and acting like him – clean language, calm responses, and always good character. That’s the real Sunnah.
Exposing Vulgarity Isn’t Vulgarity – It’s a Wake-Up Call
📖Quran 4:148
Allah does not like the public mention of evil — except by one who has been wronged…
→ If society’s filth is affecting your heart, your mind, your youth — you are wronged, and you’re allowed to speak out.
But remember:
✅ Speak clearly – to expose, not to imitate.
✅ Use strong language with purpose — to wake people up.
✅ Don’t hide behind “modesty” while evil is destroying lives in public.
✅ The Prophet ﷺ was pure and didn’t face this filth – but we do, and that’s why we’re allowed to speak where he didn’t need to.
Society today is drowning in shamelessness – short dresses, open nudity, “my body my choice” slogans – and then they act offended when someone speaks out. But when you’re forced to see filth every day, you’re not guilty for being affected – you’re human. You didn’t ask for this – they shoved it in your face. You were exposed to evil, and now it’s affecting your thoughts, your youth, your deen. So, you can and should talk openly about feminism, vulgarity, shamelessness, and their real effects. That’s not sin, that’s defense.