Marriage & Love in Islam
📖Sunan Ibn Majah 1847
It was narrated from Ibn Abbas that the Messenger of Allah ﷺ said: “There is nothing like marriage, for two who love one another.”
Explanation:
This hadith shows that love between two people is a natural human emotion, something that can arise through personality, conversation, respect, or simply Allah placing affection between them. But Islam doesn’t say: “If you love, do whatever you want.” It says: “If you love, marry.”
Yes, you may meet someone and feel a connection. Love can be from the heart, mind, or soul. But the only accepted path in Islam is to channel that love into nikah (marriage).
Islam strictly forbids:
- Dating
- Flirting
- Secret messages or relationships
- Meeting in private
- Physical touch outside marriage
Why? Because these actions:
- Lead to temptation (fitnah)
- Damage modesty and self-respect
- Open the door to zina (fornication)
Why Islam doesn’t allow flirting, secret messaging:
These things aren’t love, they’re doors to temptation – and Islam slams those doors shut before shaytaan (Satan) walks through.
Real Reasons:
1. It starts as “fun”, ends in destruction
What starts as “harmless chatting” turns into emotional attachment, late-night talks, secret meetings, and finally physical sin – zina.
Shaytaan never says ‘commit zina’ immediately. He says: “Just talk”, “Just flirt”, “Just meet once”, and step by step, the heart falls, the limits break.
2. It’s selfish “love” – not responsibility
If someone really loves you, they’ll marry you, protect your dignity, and respect you in public and private.
Flirting or secret texting is just emotional enjoyment without commitment. That’s not love, that’s using someone.
3. It damages your soul and ruins trust
Relationships outside marriage bring heartbreak, jealousy, depression, even suicidal thoughts.
And later in life, when you marry, your spouse won’t fully trust you if they know you had “past love stories.”
4. It disrespects your future spouse
Every message, every call, every late-night text with someone you’re not married to, is a memory you’re stealing from your future halal partner.
5. Islam values modesty, even in the heart
Islam doesn’t just protect the body, it protects the heart from addiction to love stories, attention-seeking, or lust disguised as “romance.”
Quranic Context:
📖Quran 17:32
“And do not approach unlawful sexual intercourse. Indeed, it is ever an immorality and is evil as a way.”
→ Islam blocks even the paths that lead to zina, like flirting or secret meetings.
📖Quran 24:30-31
“Tell the believing men to lower their gaze and guard their private parts… And tell the believing women to lower their gaze…”
→ Islam protects the eyes and heart from falling into haram by controlling how we interact with the opposite gender.
📖Quran 25:68
“And those who do not commit unlawful sexual intercourse — for whoever does so will meet a penalty.”
📖Quran 5:5
“…They are chaste, not committing fornication nor taking them as lovers in secret…”
→ The phrase “not taking them as lovers in secret” clearly rejects secret relationships even if both agree.