Marrige Age of Prophet Muhammad and Aisha

Prophet Muhammad married Aisha because there was darkness in the world at that time, and Aisha was young and knowledgeable. This enabled her to learn everything directly from the Prophet and teach it to other women in a pure manner. During pre-Islamic Arabia, women were not given much respect. However, Prophet Muhammad married Aisha to set an example that women can be knowledgeable and teach others. Aisha also taught others, as evident from the Hadith. She was a female Islamic scholar during her time she narrated over 2,000 hadiths (sayings and actions of the Prophet) which are preserved in the collections of hadith literature.

Reference: Women in Pre-Islamic Arabia

Reference: Marriage in pre-Islamic Arabia

Prophet Muhammad’s Marriage to Aisha for Teaching Purposes

An individual needs to start learning something from the beginning to understand it well. If someone starts studying something 15-20 years later, they may not be able to understand and teach it to others before they pass away. That’s why Prophet Muhammad married Aisha at the age of 9 so that she could learn everything while being with him and teach the same to others.

• The average age of death in a population. Estimates suggest that in a pre-modern, poor world, life expectancy was around 30 years in all regions of the world.

1. Reference: Life Expectancy
2. Reference: Life expectancy in the United States, 1860-2020
3. Reference: Global life expectancy from birth in selected regions 1000-2020

The question may arise that Aisha (R.A) did not die before the age of 30 or 40. However, it is important to note that Prophet Muhammad (PBUH) himself did not know when he would die. Even the Prophet himself did not know when his death would come because God does not reveal certain things to any human or messenger, such as who will die when. This knowledge is only known to God.

Age of Consent Laws

Age of consent refers to the minimum age at which a person is considered legally competent to give informed consent to sexual activity. The specific age of consent varies from country to country, and even within different regions or states within a country.

Reference: Age of Consent Laws World History

Reference: Age of Consent by Country 2023

Marriage in Islam: Does the girl’s consent matter

📖Sahih al-Bukhari 6968
The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “A virgin should not be married till she is asked for her consent; and the matron should not be married till she is asked whether she agrees to marry or not.” It was asked, “O Allah’s Apostle! How will she (the virgin) express her consent?” He said, “By keeping silent.

📖Sunan Ibn Majah 1871
It was narrated from Abu Hurairah that:
the Messenger of Allah said: “A previously-married woman should not be married until she is consulted, and a virgin should not be married until her consent is sought, and her consent is her silence.

• These Hadith emphasizes the importance of seeking the consent of a virgin girl or a matron (a woman who has been married before) before marrying her. It indicates that a woman’s agreement and consent are essential for a marriage to be valid and acceptable in Islam. Furthermore, the Hadith clarifies that a virgin girl’s silence is taken as an expression of her consent, as she may feel shy or hesitant to express her agreement verbally. However, it is essential to note that the silence should not be interpreted as a lack of consent or as a sign of unwillingness. The Prophet (ﷺ) made it clear that the girl’s consent must be sought explicitly before proceeding with the marriage.

Summary:

These hadith indicates that Prophet Muhammad’s marriage to Aisha (R.A) was carried out with her permission, as he himself stated that it is necessary to seek women’s consent.

Prophet Muhammad’s Marriage to Aisha: Age and Context

📖Sunan Ibn Majah 1877
The Prophet married Aishah when she was seven years old, and consummated the marriage with her when she was nine, and he passed away when she was eighteen.

• The question may arise as to why Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) married Aisha (may Allah be pleased with her) when she was seven years old. As previously mentioned, during the pre-Islamic era, it was was common for people to engage in practices such as selling their daughters for money. Therefore, Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) married Aisha at a young age to prevent her from being married off to someone else. It was possible that Aisha’s father may have changed his mind and married her off to someone else using his own freewill.

Reasons for Delayed Consummation of Prophet Muhammad’s Marriage with Aisha

The fact that the marriage was consummated three years after the engagement has been interpreted in different ways. Some scholars suggest that it was due to Aisha’s young age and the need to wait for her to reach puberty, while others argue that it was due to various factors such as the Prophet’s busy schedule, the need to build a strong emotional bond with his wife, and the custom of waiting for the bride to mature before consummating the marriage, The claim that Prophet Muhammad’s marriage to Aisha reflects pedophilia is a common misconception that overlooks the historical, social, and cultural context of 7th-century Arabia. Firstly, if the Prophet were driven by inappropriate desires, he would not have waited three years before consummating the marriage. The purpose of this union was far more profound and strategic. Aisha was known for her remarkable intelligence, memory, and ability to convey the Prophet’s teachings. She lived closely with him, learning directly from his words and actions. This allowed her to become a vital source of Islamic knowledge, especially on matters related to women, family life, and private aspects of worship—topics that would have been inappropriate or impossible for a man to address or teach directly. As his wife, she had a unique role in preserving and transmitting this knowledge to future generations, making her one of the most important figures in Islamic history. This marriage must be understood within the framework of its time, where norms of age and marital practices were vastly different from today. Life expectancy, physical maturity, and social structures dictated these customs. Viewing historical events through a modern lens often leads to misunderstandings. Ultimately, the marriage was not about personal desire but a purposeful alliance with immense educational and spiritual significance for the Muslim community. It served as a way to guide future generations through the unique perspective Aisha provided.

Age of Puberty:

The age of puberty is the onset of sexual maturation and reproductive development in humans. It typically occurs between the ages of 8 and 13 for girls.

Reference: Everything You Wanted to Know About Puberty

Age Difference in the Marriage of Prophet Muhammad and Aisha

Many non-Muslims ask why Prophet Muhammad married Aisha when he was 53 years old. At that time, Prophet Muhammad was not old in appearance or health, even though his age was 53. According to a Hadith, he maintained a youthful and handsome look, which was distinct from others his age. This can be compared to people today in their 50s or 60s who still appear young and active. Prophet Muhammad’s marriage to Aisha had a significant purpose. She was chosen to closely observe his life, learn from him, and later share that knowledge with others. This marriage was not based on personal desires, as the Prophet already had other wives. It was essential for her to learn and teach matters of faith, which played a key role in preserving Islamic traditions. Understanding this marriage requires looking at the historical and cultural context of that time.

The question is, why are you offended on behalf of someone who was never offended?

Aisha (RA):

• Chose the Prophet ﷺ herself
• Was supported by her family
• Became one of the greatest women in Islamic history
• Narrated over 2000 hadiths and educated thousands

And there is a well-known hadith that confirms this divine choice:

Narrated ‘Aishah: that Jibril came to the Prophet (ﷺ) with her image upon a piece of green silk cloth, and he said: “This is your wife in the world, and in the Hereafter. [Tirmidhi 3880]

So why are you, 1400 years later, pretending to be the victim when she never was?

Here are some of the Hadith:

📖Sahih al-Bukhari 3551
Narrated Al-Bara: The Prophet (ﷺ) was of moderate height having broad shoulders (long) hair reaching his ear-lobes. Once I saw him in a red cloak and I had never seen a more handsome than him.

📖Al-Adab Al-Mufrad 790
Abu’t-Tufayl said, “I was asked, ‘Did you see the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace?’ ‘Yes,’ I replied, ‘and I do not know of any man left alive on the face of the earth except myself who saw the Prophet, may Allah bless him and grant him peace.’ He went on, ‘The Prophet had white skin and a handsome face.

Prioritizing Allah and His Messenger over Parents

📖Sunan Ibn Majah 2053
“When the following was revealed: ‘But if you desire Allah and His Messenger, (ﷺ) the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ) entered upon me and said: ‘O Aishah I want to say something to you, and you do not have to hasten (in making a decision) until you have consulted your parents.”‘ She said: “He knew, by Allah, that my parents would never tell me to leave him.” She said: “Then he recited to me: ‘ O Prophet (Muhammad)! Say to your wives: ” If you desire the life of this world, and its glitter.’” I said: ‘Do I need to consult my parents about this? I choose Allah and His Messenger.

• This hadith narrates that when a verse was revealed regarding the wives of the Prophet (PBUH), Aisha (RA) was told by the Prophet (PBUH) that she did not need to consult her parents before making a decision. The verse encouraged the wives to choose between the worldly life and following the path of Allah. Aisha (RA) chose to follow Allah and His Messenger without consulting her parents.

Aisha: Was she a child or a woman

📖Sahih Muslim 1422 c
‘A’isha (Allah be pleased with her) reported that Allah’s Apostle (ﷺ) married her when she was seven years old, and he was taken to his house as a bride when she was nine, and her dolls were with her; and when he (the Holy Prophet) died she was eighteen years old.

• A bride is generally considered to be a woman who is getting married or who has recently been married. The term “bride” usually refers to a woman who has reached the legal age to marry and has attained the age of majority in her country. However, playing with dolls is not necessarily associated with a specific age, as there are many girls who continue to play with dolls in different ages.

📖Sahih al-Bukhari 6927
A group of Jews asked permission to visit the Prophet (and when they were admitted) they said, “As- Samu ‘Alaika (Death be upon you).” I said (to them), “But death and the curse of Allah be upon you!” The Prophet (ﷺ) said, “O `Aisha! Allah is kind and lenient and likes that one should be kind and lenient in all matters.” I said, “Haven’t you heard what they said?” He said, “I said (to them), ‘Wa ‘Alaikum (and upon you).

• If Aisha (R.A) had been a child, she would not have responded to the Jews in that manner, and the Jews would not have greeted her in that way either. If she had been a child, people would have raised questions about the incident, and it would have been recorded in historical accounts. However, since she was a woman at that time, no questions were raised about the incident. Therefore, it is important to understand the context of the incident from the cultural and societal norms of that time, rather than judging it from a modern 21st-century perspective.

📖Sunan Abi Dawud 2578
Narrated Aisha, Ummul Mu’minin:
while she was on a journey along with the Messenger of Allah (ﷺ): I had a race with him (the Prophet) and I outstripped him on my feet. When I became fleshy, (again) I had a race with him (the Prophet) and he outstripped me. He said: This is for that outstripping.

• If Aisha (R.A) had refused to marry, she would not have participated in the race and other events. This hadith clearly shows us that Ayesha (R.A) was a woman who participated in a race with Prophet Muhammad. Therefore, stop spreading hatred in society and refrain from blasphemy against our Prophet.

📖Sahih al-Bukhari 2880
On the day (of the battle) of Uhad when (some) people retreated and left the Prophet, I saw `Aisha bint Abu Bakr and Um Sulaim, with their robes tucked up so that the bangles around their ankles were visible hurrying with their water skins (in another narration it is said, “carrying the water skins on their backs”). Then they would pour the water in the mouths of the people, and return to fill the water skins again and came back again to pour water in the mouths of the people.

• The hadith clearly refers to Aisha bint Abu Bakr and Um Sulaim as women, who were seen by Anas bin Malik to be hurrying with their water skins to provide water to the injured and thirsty Muslims during the Battle of Uhud.

Ayesha’s Love for Prophet

📖Sahih al-Bukhari 3818
Narrated `Aisha: I did not feel jealous of any of the wives of the Prophet (ﷺ) as much as I did of Khadija though I did not see her, but the Prophet (ﷺ) used to mention her very often, and when ever he slaughtered a sheep, he would cut its parts and send them to the women friends of Khadija. When I sometimes said to him, “(You treat Khadija in such a way) as if there is no woman on earth except Khadija,” he would say, “Khadija was such-and-such, and from her I had children.

• This hadith highlights the deep love and respect that Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) had for his first wife, Khadija (may Allah be pleased with her), and how he continued to honor her even after her death. However, it also shows the positive relationship between Ayesha and the Prophet, as Aisha mentions her jealousy of Khadija, indicating her love and attachment to the Prophet.

Prophet Muhammad’s Love for Aisha

📖Sahih al-Bukhari 4358
Narrated Abu `Uthman:
Allah’s Messenger (ﷺ) sent `Amr bin Al As as the commander of the troops of Dhat-us-Salasil. `Amr bin Al- `As said, “(On my return) I came to the Prophet (ﷺ) and said, ‘Which people do you love most?’ He replied, `Aisha.’ I said, ‘From amongst the men?’ He replied, ‘Her father (Abu Bakr)’. I said, ‘Whom (do you love) next?’ He replied, “`Umar.’ Then he counted the names of many men, and I became silent for fear that he might regard me as the last of them.

• This hadith shows the special place that Aisha held in the Prophet’s heart, and the depth of his love for her. This love is also evident in many other hadiths and stories about the Prophet (peace be upon him) and Aisha, where he would spend time with her, seek her advice, and comfort her when she was upset. Their relationship serves as a beautiful example of love, respect, and companionship between a husband and wife in Islam.

📖Sunan Ibn Majah 1977
It was narrated from Ibn ‘Abbas that:
the Prophet said: “The best of you is the one who is best to his wife, and I am the best of you to my wives.

• This hadith shows that the Prophet (peace be upon him) placed a great emphasis on treating one’s spouse with kindness and respect, and he himself was a role model in this regard.

Islamic Perspective on Marriage and Age Requirements

📖Quran 4:6
And test the orphans [in their abilities] until they reach marriageable age. Then if you perceive in them sound judgement, release their property to them. And do not consume it excessively and quickly, [anticipating] that they will grow up. And whoever, [when acting as guardian], is self-sufficient should refrain [from taking a fee]; and whoever is poor – let him take according to what is acceptable. Then when you release their property to them, bring witnesses upon them. And sufficient is Allah as Accountant.

• This verse talks about the marriageable age of orphans and instructs that when an orphan reaches the age of marriage and shows good judgment and capability, their property should be released to them. This also implies that marriage cannot take place until the orphan reaches the age of marriage.

Age Limit for Marriage

Prophet Muhammad did not set a specific marriage age, nor did Allah set any age limit for marriage in the Qur’an. The age limit for marriage among Muslims is subject to change with the times.

Summary:

In Islam, there is no fixed or universal age for marriage. Rather, it is determined by the cultural and social norms of a particular community or region, as well as any legal requirements set by Islamic rulers. These norms and laws have evolved over time and vary based on historical context and the changing roles and expectations of women. Therefore, it is important to understand the specific context in which these norms and practices related to marriage are operating, rather than making generalizations about Islamic beliefs and traditions.

• In this article, we have included all references, but it is important to note that the hadiths related to Aisha’s age are not direct statements from Prophet Muhammad ﷺ. Instead, these narrations are attributed to Aisha herself, as reported by the narrators. The hadith does not state that Prophet Muhammad ﷺ himself mentioned her age at the time of marriage. Therefore, while we accept the narrations as they are written, it is possible that there may have been an error in understanding or conveying what Aisha said, So, there could be an issue – or it could be fully correct. If someone thinks there may be an issue, it does not mean it was a sin, because the Prophet ﷺ never said it himself. Rather, it must remain open as maybe an error, maybe correct. Since hadith collectors gave higher priority to the Prophet’s direct words, it is possible that a mistake occurred when this narration was transmitted, with Aisha’s own statement being misunderstood or reported differently.

A Marriage Chosen by God

1. Now you might say,  “Would you allow your daughter to marry a 52-year-old man?” Then here’s the answer: It’s not about a 52-year-old man, It’s about a Prophet of God. This marriage wasn’t random, Allah created Aisha (RA) for this purpose, It was not for all women, it was a divine exception to prepare a role model, a scholar, a guardian of hadith. She wasn’t just a wife, she became the voice of women in Islam, So yes, if my daughter reached maturity, and a Prophet of God came with divine mission, and she willingly accepted, then who am I to stop what God has planned?
2. Let’s flip the question: If Jesus came and told Christians to kill all Muslims, would you obey or disobey? You’d say: “He’s the Son of God, I’d follow him no matter what.” So you’re ready to sacrifice everything for Jesus, even bow down by force when he returns (Philippians 2:10), even surrender all power and laws (1 Corinthians 15:24-28) – because you believe in him. Then don’t be a hypocrite. We love our Prophet the way you claim to love yours, and more. We follow him, obey him, and trust Allah’s wisdom behind his life decisions, And we love Jesus too. If he returns and commands us to follow what he told us in the true message, we will obey him fully, as Allah and His prophets commanded us.

The Marriage of the Prophet ﷺ is Not a Universal Example for Age – but His Love and Aisha’s Character Are

The Prophet Muhammad’s ﷺ marriage to Aisha (RA) should not be taken as a direct model for marriage age today. Instead, what should be followed are the values shown in that marriage – such as the deep love the Prophet ﷺ showed his wife, and the intelligence, strength, and behavior of Aisha (RA) as a woman. Here’s why the age aspect is not a model:

1. It was a Divine Plan for a Unique Purpose:
As mentioned earlier, the marriage was part of divine wisdom meant to educate the Muslim ummah. The strongest sign of this is that they did not have children. If the marriage age itself was meant to be an example, then anyone who marries at that same age today would also expect similar outcomes, but human biology doesn’t work like that. Their marriage was not for reproduction, it was for education.

Marriage Age Trends: A Historical Overview

1. Middle Ages Europe 7-12 14-16 (depending on region and social class)
2. 16th Century Europe 12-16 18 (depending on region and social class)
3. Colonial Period United States 7-22 18-26 (depending on region and social class)
4. Pre-Independence India 7-12 18-21 (depending on region and social class)
5. 19th Century Europe 12 (1850) – 16 (1900) 26-27 (depending on region and social class)
6. 19th Century United States 21 (1850) – 22.5 (1900) 20-30 (depending on region and social class)

It is important to note that what was considered normal in society and the ages at which marriages took place varied between different regions, religions, and social classes. In the past, these ages were considered acceptable for marriage, but today we refer to them as child marriages. It’s important to recognize that societal norms and values change over time, and what was once acceptable may not be acceptable now. Therefore, we cannot compare past practices to those of the present.

Historical Accounts of Child Brides

Reference: List of child bridegrooms

Reference: List of child brides

• It is important to understand that comparing people of different times and places is not always accurate or fair, as cultural, societal, and technological changes can greatly affect human behavior and norms. It is also important to recognize that people from the past had different experiences and circumstances that shaped their lives, which can make them significantly different from people of today.

Child Bride in Bible Old Testament

📖Numbers 31:17-18
Now kill all the boys. And kill every woman who has slept with a man, but save for yourselves every little girl who has never slept with a man.

• The phrase ‘save for yourselves’ in Numbers 31:18 means that the virgin girls were to be taken for themselves as wives or concubines.

The Age of Mary at the Birth of Jesus

Mary was around 12-13 years old when she gave birth to her son Jesus. According to the Bible (Matthew 1:18), Mary was found to be pregnant through the Holy Ghost. Jesus lived in this world for 33-36 years and was then killed by the Jewish people. According to Christian belief, Jesus died and was cursed according to Paul (Galatians 3:13). Therefore, the total age of Jesus’ mother would be 13+33=46 or 13+36=49 years. After Jesus left the world, Christian scholars say that his mother, Mary, lived for another 15 years. So, the total age of Mary would be 46+15=61 years or 49+15=64 years. She died at the age of 62-64.

• This is what Christians believe, not Muslims. In Islam, we do not believe that Jesus was cursed, nor do we have any authentic report about the exact age of Mary when she gave birth or when she died. What is mentioned about her age comes from Christian tradition.

It is also common in human history that girls married at ages 13-14-15-16, as these were considered the best ages for marriage in earlier societies. Even today, this is still normal. Early marriage helped reduce adultery, pornography, immorality, rape, and disrespect in society. However, due to corruption and the unhealthy environment of the modern world, the safer marriage age today has been set at 18+.

Reference: The Life of the Blessed Virgin Mary by Anne Catherine Emmerich (Chapter XVIII: The Death of Mary)

Reference: Did St. Joseph Have a First Wife Named Melcha? on Catholic.com

Reference: Mary, Mother of Jesus on New Advent Catholic Encyclopedia

Isaac:

📖Genesis 25:20
And Isaac was forty years old when he married Rebekah daughter of Bethuel the Aramean from Paddan Aram and sister of Laban the Aramean.

📖Book of Jasher, Chapter 24 40-45
And the young woman was of very comely appearance, she was a virgin, and Rebecca was ten years old in those days. And Bethuel and Laban and his children made a feast on that night, and Eliezer and his men came and ate and drank and rejoiced there on that night. And Eliezer rose up in the morning, he and the men that were with him, and he called to the whole household of Bethuel, saying, Send me away that I may go to my master; and they rose up and sent away Rebecca and her nurse Deborah, the daughter of Uz, and they gave her silver and gold, men servants and maid servants, and they blessed her. And they sent Eliezer away with his men; and the servants took Rebecca, and he went and returned to his master to the land of Canaan. And Isaac took Rebecca and she became his wife, and he brought her into the tent. And Isaac was forty years old when he took Rebecca, the daughter of his uncle Bethuel, for a wife

• According to the Book of Jasher, Chapter 24, Rebekah was 10 years old when Isaac took her as his wife. It is important to note that the Book of Jasher is mentioned in 2 Samuel 1:18 as part of the Bible, but Christians later removed it. If you deny this, it implies that some books were lost, and your Bible is not an complete scripture.

Reference: Book of Jasher, Chapter 24

According to Judaism

For when Abraham came from Mount Moriah, he was informed that Rebecca had been born. Isaac was then thirty-seven years old, for at that time Sarah died, and from the time that Isaac was born until the “Binding” [of Isaac], when Sarah died, were thirty-seven years, for she was ninety years old when Isaac was born, and one hundred and twenty-seven when she died, as it is stated (above 23:1): “The life of Sarah was [a hundred and twenty seven years.”] This makes Isaac thirty-seven years old, and at that time, Rebecca was born. He waited for her until she would be fit for marital relations-three years-and then married her. — [From Gen. Rabbah 57:1; when Prophet isaac married Rebecca he was 40 years Genesis 25:20 so at that time Rebecca is only three years old.

Reference: Rashi on Genesis 25:19

Child Bride in Hinduism

In the Skanda Purana, specifically in the Rava Khanda, Chapter 142, that mentions Rukmini being eight years old at the time of her marriage to Krishna. This chapter describes the greatness of Rukmini Tirtha, which is a sacred place associated with Rukmini.Reference:

Reference: The Greatness of Rukmini Tirtha

It is important to note that Krishna married more than 16,000 women and had ten children with each of his wives. However, the exact age of his wives is unknown.

The Age of Sita’s Marriage

The Skanda Purana, a text in Hindu mythology, mentions that Sita was only six years old when she got married to Rama.

📖Skanda Purana 2:30-8-9
The bow of Īśvara that was kept in the abode of Janaka, was broken. In his fifteenth year, O king, Rāma married the six-year old beautiful daughter of the king of Mithilā, Sītā who was not born of a womb. On getting Sītā, Rāghava became contented and happy.

According to this verse, Ram married Sita when she was 6 years old, and it is believed that Sita did not emerge from a mother’s womb but rather appeared miraculously. It is important to note that the idea that Sita did not emerge from a mother’s womb but rather appeared miraculously is a belief that is part of Hindu mythology. However, it is not based on historical or scientific evidence and cannot be verified. It is important to understand that mythology and beliefs may differ from factual evidence and should not be taken as historical or scientific truth.

Reference: Skanda Purana 2:30-8-9

After their marriage, Ram and Sita lived in Ayodhya for twelve years

📖Valmiki Ramayana Aranya Kanda Chapter 47 Verses 3-5 :
I am the daughter of noble-souled Janaka, the king of Mithila, by name I am Seetha, and the dear wife and queen of Rama, let safety betide you. “On residing in the residence of Ikshvaku-s in Ayodhya for twelve years, I was in sumptuosity of all cherishes while relishing all humanly prosperities.

📖Valmiki Ramayana Book VI : Yuddha Kanda – Book Of War Chapter [Sarga] 116 Veres 16
My hand taken (by you as a bride) in our childhood was not duly recognized by you. My devotion, my chastity and all have been ignored by you.”

Summary

It is important to note According to the Hindu epic Ramayana, Sita was kidnapped by Ravana, the demon king of Lanka, after 12 years of living in Ayodhya with Rama. Rama, along with his brother Lakshmana, went on a mission to rescue Sita and fought a fierce battle against Ravana and his army in Lanka.

Declaration of the marriage age in Hinduism

📖Mahabharata13.44.13
A person of thirty years of age should wed a girl of ten years of age called a Nagnika. Or, a person of one and twenty years of age should wed a girl of seven years of age.

Reference: Mahabharata13.44.13

📖Manusmriti Verse 9.94
A man thirty years old shall marry a charming maiden twelve years old; or one twenty four years old, a damsel eight years old; in the event of his duties suffering, he may do it sooner.

Reference; Manusmriti Verse 9.94

Here is your corrected and improved version, with better logic and clarity, while keeping your core message intact and supporting it as a true concept of women’s rights:

True Women’s Rights

When we look at authentic Hadith, we never find Aisha (RA) saying that her marriage to the Prophet ﷺ was forced. In fact, she herself confirmed her marriage, and there is no evidence of any compulsion. So what exactly is the problem? Let’s also look at the story of Mary (Maryam). When she gave birth to Jesus (Isa), she was around 13–14 years old according to most historical sources. The angel came to her, and she didn’t say, “I refuse to give birth” she accepted the will of God. That, too, is a form of true women’s dignity and purpose, not rebellion, but submission to divine wisdom, The point here is: forcing any girl to marry is against Islam. But if a girl is mentally and physically ready, and her family confirms her well-being through proper means (emotionally, physically, and even medically if needed), then it’s not about age, it’s about readiness. That’s the real meaning of women’s rights: protecting her, not enslaving her to arbitrary age laws. Even in many parts of today’s world, the legal age of consent is 12, 13, or 14, depending on the country. So if that’s accepted legally, why is it wrong for a girl, with her own will and her family’s protection, to choose marriage? Women’s rights don’t mean rebellion or following Western trends. It means protecting her dignity, allowing her to marry when she is ready, and ensuring her well-being. Islam allowed this over 1400 years ago, with consent, respect, and care, not modern confusion and exploitation disguised as ‘freedom.’

The Modern Marriage System Is a Trap – Not Protection

Modern society keeps shouting about “women’s rights” yet forces girls to wait till 18 to marry, even if they are ready mentally and physically. If a girl is mature and wants marriage, why stop her? Is that really freedom, or just a different kind of oppression?

They say it’s about protection but reality tells a different story:

• Teenagers are blocked from marriage but are free to date, have boyfriends, make explicit videos, watch porn, and even get pregnant out of wedlock.
• Girls are exploited in ads, music, TikTok, and even adult industries. Meanwhile, marriage is portrayed as harmful?
• This system creates a society full of porn addicts, fornicators, broken homes, and depression all while pretending to be “modern.”

By the age of 13 or 14, most teens already know everything about sex due to smartphones and media. Instead of offering them a halal, protected, and responsible way (marriage) the system pushes them into adultery.

What does this lead to?

• Loss of sexual sensitivity and desire in marriage
• Loss of sexual power in both men and women — many suffer from erectile dysfunction (ED), low libido, or inability to enjoy real intimacy, mainly due to porn addiction and excessive masturbation
• High divorce rates and broken families
• Domestic abuse from suppressed frustration and unmet needs
• People becoming cold, addicted to fantasy, and emotionally disconnected from real relationships

Frequent masturbation and constant exposure to porn rewire the brain, it becomes addicted to fake stimulation. Over time, the brain stops reacting to real love or touch, which causes problems in marriage like:

• Men losing erection or feeling weak
• Women losing desire or becoming emotionally distant
• Lack of satisfaction, leading to cheating, fights, or breakups

This isn’t freedom, it’s slow destruction. Modern society blocks halal marriage but promotes zina and self-destruction in the name of “liberty.”

And they justify this by saying girls need education first, but girls can study after marriage too. The truth is: they just don’t want moral rules. They want pleasure without responsibility, and they use fake “laws” to cover it.

BUT YES, the current legal age (like 16–18) can be understandable in today’s corrupt world, where many people may misuse early marriage for their own desires. Not everyone follows Islamic rules. So setting an age helps prevent abuse in societies where morality is weak.

However, this doesn’t mean Islam’s rules are wrong, Islam allows marriage only when the girl is ready, and only with her consent and family protection. That’s true women’s rights, not forcing her to wait while society destroys her innocence.

So the problem is not early marriage, the problem is who is in control:
👉 In Islam, marriage protects the girl.
👉 In the modern world, fake freedom destroys her, for profit.

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